anger - a spiritual dilema - please help me

Wed Apr 15, 2009 4:51 pm » by **Bawdiemaude**

i write here looking for help as there seem to be incredibly enlightened ppl in this forum who have wisdom and experience that may help.

i know about shadow aspect and ive done work on my dark side and I do regualr energy work......in that space i can face my demons in the raw as i am held by the healer/s

but today
in my real life
I feel this sudden explosion of anger

i should say i was brought up the 'good girl' so I do not find it easy to express anger directly usually use my art or self inflicted self destruction - will go out get drunk, smoke, fuck, rather than deal with my anger directly.

i dont know how to.....

i cant discern the line between my shit and other ppls - i think that i 'should' be big enough to not react when others are being fucky....but it builds and builds and today i cant seem to stop the spewing anger- i am angry with everything and i dont know how to let it out safely i think if i say something i will be venomous and destroy my relationships- if i start punching a pillow i think i will end up destroying the whole house- yet i feel it rising inside me and i think if i dont get it out it will destroy me.

i am happy to be feeling anger as i have been smothering it and i know thats bad for my creativity...but now its here....what the hell do i do....?

i am so angry about so many things.....

please help me

Wed Apr 15, 2009 5:00 pm » by **Drextin**

When we hold in anger we tend to let it loose at the wrong time and/or towards the wrong people.

WRITE! Even if no one ever sees what you write it will help let the air out of your anger bubble. It may seen a poor substitute but it works. Then when your mind is stable and thinking clearly figure out what is making you angry and address it..........correctly. Or it will keep happening.

Wed Apr 15, 2009 5:11 pm » by **Indicadubman**

Anger can be the downfall of many if not kept in check and i can totally empathise with your situation.
There are many ways of releasing anger safely and i find that going to an isolated spot and just shouting at nothing imparticular works for me just go to a place where you know you wi;ll be alone and not heard and just scream and scream that may work for you also try some form of exersise maybe jogging or sprinting will use the adrhenalin that is building up as your anger is fuelled by it so if you can divert it to something other than anger may help you.
It is a hard subject to deal with as each person is different and there are many factors that cause the situation to develop and my advice to you is step back and have a look at your daily life and see if there are any areas that may trigger you to start feeling angry and take it from there also try doing some yoga and try to channel your energy and make the anger work for you in a positive way also have a look at your diet too much protine make some aggresive and alcohol can be a danger in these situations so stay clear if your able.
I hope i have helped you in this dilemma or at least given you some insite into where your anger is coming from take care and if i can help any more don't hesitate to drop me a msg
take care
peace
Indi

ps Don't forget to smile !

Wed Apr 15, 2009 5:15 pm » by **Johnsmith**

It happened to me in the past occasionally.
Whatever you do, please do not harm yourself physically, this could only be a momentary relief.
It would be better to leave the computer, the house and the town, if possible, for a few hours.
These banalities work, at least for me... Take care.

Thu Apr 16, 2009 3:23 am » by **Bawdiemaude**

thank you all so so much
drextin
(moderator)slushpup (congrats btw)
indi
john smith

in those pits - it really means the world to feel the touch of a 'telepathic' hand.

of course 'busyness' meant i could not wallow and though feeling dull with it all, i am working on a piece of art that requires me to recreate the 1000 petaled lotus....(does anyone know how to do that??)
and researching it i also came across the concept of just letting go! DUH....so far this moment i have#

but i am so appreciative of your advice and next time (oh my!) i will endeavor to keep my knives to myself (did i say i was also doing an art project with knives?)

seriously though much appreciated.......................

Thu Apr 16, 2009 4:23 am » by **Cornbread714**

I wanted to say something helpful, but I'm such a twisted angry fuck myself sometimes that I didn't feel qualified to give advice on the subject :sunny:

Hang in there, sweetheart :wink:

I'm gonna go lay down, goodnight all... :flop:

Thu Apr 16, 2009 5:19 am » by **Clawspiracy**

There are two really simple things that have always helped me in situations like these...

1. Remember that all things will pass.

2. It is always the darkest just before the dawn. But the dawn always comes.

And the random freebie...

3. Tell your ego to relax (it really works).

Smile. People care! Isn't that the shit? And we're strangers, girl!

Thu Apr 16, 2009 6:08 am » by **Hesop**

Hey Maude!
You know all about feelings, and you know, like Claws said, they always pass. Really, when it comes right down to it, you know you're mad, cause you want to be. Right? But you don't have to be if you don't want. It is a feeling/emotion, not a fact, or injury. It can be even pretty easy sometimes, to turn it into something else. Like disappointment. Sometimes you set your expectations for yourself to high, and you know that too. And of course I'm sure of your awareness of medical things, diets, lack of good sleep, and tension, .....stuff that just bottles up because, once again, your not taking good enough care of yourself. So, give yourself a treat, take a look in the mirror, and agree with yourself to let up a little. In a day or two, you won't even remember it. Remember that once you've been someplace, it's easier later to take a different road, if you want to avoid it later.
Have a laugh or 2, or 3......Seriously!

Fri Apr 17, 2009 8:44 am » by **Bawdiemaude**

yes still angry
and its crawling all over me

i understand what you say

but i cant seem to choose something else

for most of the day i am fine
then confronted by the implacable source of my anger i am incapable - turned to stone by it.
unable to express it in any way other than unspilled tears held raw in my throat.

will keep trying your suggestions
and truly deeply
deeply
appreciate your words.

though just re read what i wrote and it really doesnt sound like i have heard you at all....ok breathing and re reading......relax ego....take a pill - well maybe not a real pill remember no drugs during this time....ok.....see small smile.....ok

Fri Apr 17, 2009 8:59 am » by **Hesop**

You know about power, right?
If a person has the capability of control over your emotion, it is a power......unless you take it away from them. It is much easier done with this realization. You render them powerless, by dropping that emotion, and gain that control/power back.

Reach inside for your inner strength to overcome it.