Couple Has An Open Marriage So Complicated, It's Hard To Kee

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PostWed Nov 27, 2013 5:21 pm » by Boondox681


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Michael loves his wife, Kamala. Michael also likes his 27-year-old girlfriend, Rachel. So six months ago, Kamala decided to do what most wives would never even consider: she invited Rachel to come live with them and their six year-old son.

Monogamy just doesn't work for the couple, whose relationship is featured on Showtime’s "Polyamory: Married & Dating." What does work for them is a polyamorous lifestyle, Kamala and Michael tell Nightline reporter Nick Watt in the report above. (Rachel is not the first person they've invited into their relationship during the course of their 12-year marriage; the couple previously shared their home with another couple, and Kamala has been in a relationship with another woman for two years.)

"Monogamy can be a really beautiful agreement between people when they're deeply in love and they don't have desire for another," Kamala says. "But most people in our society are just monogamous because their vows said 'I will forsake all others.'"

The trio's seemingly blissful relationship -- they do yoga together, love tantric sex and collectively raise the couple's son -- leaves the Nightline reporter wondering if maybe they're on to something. With so many marriages ending in divorce -- oftentimes because of infidelity -- is polyamory the answer to all our divorce woes?



yea..that's what i need-ANOTHER wife.


it all looks good on paper.......
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PostWed Nov 27, 2013 5:26 pm » by 99socks


Boondox681 wrote:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/26/open-marriage-_n_4345000.html?ncid=txtlnkusaolp00000592

Michael loves his wife, Kamala. Michael also likes his 27-year-old girlfriend, Rachel. So six months ago, Kamala decided to do what most wives would never even consider: she invited Rachel to come live with them and their six year-old son.

Monogamy just doesn't work for the couple, whose relationship is featured on Showtime’s "Polyamory: Married & Dating." What does work for them is a polyamorous lifestyle, Kamala and Michael tell Nightline reporter Nick Watt in the report above. (Rachel is not the first person they've invited into their relationship during the course of their 12-year marriage; the couple previously shared their home with another couple, and Kamala has been in a relationship with another woman for two years.)

"Monogamy can be a really beautiful agreement between people when they're deeply in love and they don't have desire for another," Kamala says. "But most people in our society are just monogamous because their vows said 'I will forsake all others.'"

The trio's seemingly blissful relationship -- they do yoga together, love tantric sex and collectively raise the couple's son -- leaves the Nightline reporter wondering if maybe they're on to something. With so many marriages ending in divorce -- oftentimes because of infidelity -- is polyamory the answer to all our divorce woes?



yea..that's what i need-ANOTHER wife.


it all looks good on paper.......
:ohno:


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Works for some... doesn't work for others.

I find it hilarious though, when anything "mainstream" thinks it's found something "new"...

People have been doing this for nearly forever.

Heck, poly groups formed waaaay before Match and eHarmony....



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PostWed Nov 27, 2013 5:49 pm » by Boondox681


i'm with you socks.mine is not to judge
i've been married to my wife for 13 years(my 3rd marriage) and we've engaged in MANY 'out of the box'
activities.99% of them awesome.
then everyone goes home.
this young man will eventually find out,as men get older,they're character flaws and their amount,rapidly increase.
i can barely handle one person pointing those out to me...thank you much. :D


that's what find amusing
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PostWed Nov 27, 2013 6:03 pm » by 99socks


Boondox681 wrote:this young man will eventually find out,as men get older,they're character flaws and their amount,rapidly increase.
i can barely handle one person pointing those out to me...thank you much. :D


that's what find amusing



See, and this is the curious thing...

ALL of the poly groups I know, are very, very aware of what their weaknesses are (as individuals), and what they have to offer. I have seen (closed) groups literally sit down as a group and determine whether there was a "hole" or a "need," and what kind of person would need to be found to fill it. Then, they would determine whether there was a member(s) of the group who have the characteristics, preferences, energy, or whatever to give back to the new person.

It's literally like the ideal "socialist" economic tribal situation, where if you have something you give to someone in need, with the understanding that someone else in the tribe will give to you what YOU need, regardless if you have ever gifted to them anything or not.

With the closed poly system, this works on an emotional/social/sexual level, not specifically on an economic level.

If you find the right group of people where jealousy isn't an issue (and many have believed they are free of it, but later find that they are not), then the situation works waaaaaay better than the one-man, one-woman bullshit where we all have been indoctrinated to believe that one person out there is supposed to be everything to someone else.

At least with the poly groups, there's some honesty. But you find that in the kink community in general- people are way the heck more self-aware and mature about relationships than the random vanilla idiot who just wants to get laid or else someone who has some rosy ideals about a life-long marriage.
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PostWed Nov 27, 2013 6:32 pm » by Boondox681


If you find the right group of people where jealousy isn't an issue

ding,ding,ding.
you will find many more 'swinger' than poly-lifestyle.
purely physical.

which brings us to this
At least with the poly groups, there's some honesty.

in either case,there must be TOTAL honesty.within the couple or the group.
in these situations,all feelings are accepted,but the masking of those feelings is not.
that brings mistrust.there must be trust.


easier said than done

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PostWed Nov 27, 2013 7:41 pm » by The57ironman


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PostWed Nov 27, 2013 8:17 pm » by pushtone


The57ironman wrote:.


........WTF...?

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i couldn't figure the point either :headscratch:

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ahhhh.. i know what to do - i'll be upset :hell: ..... Its Disgusting :alien51:


All i would care about is ...... are they

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or.... are they

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